4 Causes That Can Make Your Vagina Feel Sore After Sex

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As someone once said the reason for having sex is not the sex itself but the afterglow. You know, when you’re both lying there tangled up like pretzels, your body’s limp from exhaustion, your mouths hanging open, a glazed look in your eyes: afterglow. It’s caused by the release of endorphins in the brain and is one of life’s great pleasures. There are a few things, however, that can pretty effectively cancel out afterglow such as someone being a dick and jumping up to put their clothes on. Or maybe one person grabbing their phone in the immediate aftermath to check FB instead of gazing into your eyes. But both of those pale in comparison to lying there on the bed wondering why your vagina is sore.

Reasons for a Sore Vagina After Sex

The aftermath of really great sex should be a prolonged period of hazy satisfaction. A true peak experience. Not a painful time when your brain is racing trying to figure out why your vagina is sore. But a sore vagina does happen, and because of that, it’s important to know why and what you can do to treat it. Here are four possible reasons your vagina is sore after sex.

  1. late morning sleepInsufficient arousal – It’s possible that the sex itself was a roller coaster plowing through a tropical rainforest that left you both in a ball on the Persian carpet questioning the nature of reality. But if the rocket left the launch pad before all the preflight checks were made, your vagigi may have been ill-prepared for the flight into outer space. Even if you were able to catch up effectively and get the capsule pointed toward the moon, there’s a chance that the rush to lift off may leave you with a sore vagina.The best way to avoid this is for both of you to take… your… time. The vagina is not a machine. You can’t flip a switch marked “lubrication” and just jump into the deep end. It’s important that you both understand this. If one of you is in a rush, the other has to say “Whoa, big fella! Relax! I’ll still be here half an hour from now. Come here and give me some tongue.” Perhaps not those exact words but you get the idea. Arousal equals lubrication equals avoiding a sore vagina later. Keep in mind too that if your vagina isn’t a natural fountain, there are things called lubricants you can purchase at the drug store that will pick up the slack and that applying it together can be a very erotic experience.
  2. couple doing bed trickThe rough riders – There’s nothing wrong with rough sex as long as you’re both into it and you’re both mature enough to know when to dial things back if it becomes necessary. Sore vaginas typically result from rough sex when either one person doesn’t want to say anything to break the mood or the other isn’t paying attention to what their partner’s body is trying to tell them. Let’s be clear; we’re not talking about someone saying “no” and the other ignoring it. We’re talking instead about trying to find a way forward when you’re both really into it but at some point it begins to feel uncomfortable.The way to avoid a sore vagina in such cases is communication. Say something if a particular position is causing you discomfort or if your partner has gone overboard in the enthusiasm department. A simple hand gesture or low-key “ow” should be enough to get the message across without hurting anyone’s feelings. From there you can simply make any necessary adjustments before carrying on. Communication.
  3. red skinAllergic reaction – Now it could be that absolutely everything about a particular sexual encounter was exactly what you hoped it would be and yet shortly after the conclusion of this steamy, dreamy episode you’re lying there drained when suddenly you begin to feel soreness emanating from your vagina. “What’s up with that?” You ask yourself. And if a review of the events doesn’t reveal any particular moments that might have caused soreness in your nether regions then there must be something else going on. That something else could be an allergic reaction to semen.No, it’s not a myth. There actually is something called “human seminal plasma protein hypersensitivity.” While it’s not common, it can and sometimes does happen. Unfortunately, there’s no way to detect in advance if you’ll have an allergic reaction to semen. You have to experience it to know. If you discover this is indeed the case with you, then you should seriously consider using condoms in the future. On the other hand, if your guy is already using condoms and you feel sore afterward you may be experiencing an allergic reaction to latex. This is actually more common than a semen allergy. Try changing brands or washing your vagina right after sex.
  4. sad girl on the bedA cyst – If you have eliminated other potential causes for your vaginal soreness after sex it could be something a bit more serious like a cyst. The Bartholin cyst is a growth filled with fluid that appears one of the Bartholin glands inside the vagina. While the cyst itself is benign (whew!) it can cause vaginal soreness of varying intensity; depending on the size of the cyst and the intensity and duration of the sex. A pretty good indication that this type of cyst may be causing your sore vagina is when the discomfort is localized to one side. This kind of cyst typically develops when the Bartholin gland becomes blocked for some reason. The good news is that you may be able to drain the fluid from the cyst yourself by soaking in a warm bath. If that doesn’t work, your friendly neighborhood Ob/Gyn can surgically drain it for you in no time.

A sore vagina after sex isn’t any fun but doesn’t necessarily indicate there are any deeper underlying issues. You may just have to ratchet back the randy a bit or use some lube or change condom brands or take a long hot bath.